It’s been a year since I launched Thriving Little Thinkers! Since then we’ve published 14 posts, had thousands of page views, hundreds of email subscribers, and hosted two giveaways. Thank you for joining me on this adventure!
This list includes posts with the most page views in 2023 on Thriving Little Thinkers. I was honestly surprised at the #1 post and I’m excited to share more content like it in the coming year. If you have specific questions or topics about raising thinkers that you’d like to see on the blog in 2024, please comment on this post or email [email protected].
I had no idea how much y’all love LEGOs! This post ranked first in pageviews for 2024, with almost double the views of #2.
This post explains how LEGO® bricks are a high impact and high value educational toy so that parents or grandparents aiming for play-based learning can invest in quality tools. Not just toys–tools to help them grow and learn to think.
Open AI released chatGPT in November 2022 and the education world responded in force, both with excitement and with deep concern. 2023 could easily be labeled the year AI disrupted…frankly every market it has touched.
This post encourages parents to approach AI with both curiosity and caution, to determine how to best leverage these tools AND how to train our children to do so. It’s the first in a two part series on chatGPT, the second being #4 of the top posts this year.
Every evidence-based parenting book I’ve read mentions modeling. But is it really as simple as “monkey see, monkey do?” And can it be used for more than just behavior modification? Can you use modeling to shape thinking processes? Mindset? What about modeling values?
This post explains the concept of modeling, the underlying brain research behind it, and empowers parents to be agents of change. As Charles Spurgeon once said: “Train up a child in the way he should go–but be sure you go that way yourself.”
In light of AI’s impact on education, what thinking skills are essential now, more than ever? How do we teach our children those skills?
This post debunks the argument that thinking skills are obsolete and encourages parents to build up cognitive skills that are even more necessary in this digital, evolving world.
Put critical thinking skills into practice right away by grabbing the FREE STUDENT WORKBOOK: Smart Kids Chat Smarter that walks you the C.R.A.A.P. test for evaluating ChatGPT output!
There are a million ways for parents to invest in their child’s education. We have chosen to homeschool our Kindergartener this year with specific brain-friendly curriculum and an everyday learning lifestyle for the entire family.
Whether you are homeschooling, public schooling, private schooling, or something in between, this post provides ideas for a lifestyle of learning and plenty of resources to explore.
There you have it! The top 5 posts of Thriving Little Thinkers for 2023. I pray that when you come to thrivinglittlethinkers.com you receive practical help and inspiration for raising little thinkers. Don’t forget to subscribe!
There are a million ways to do Kindergarten. Public school, private school, university-model, co-op, distance learning, and more. We’ve decided on homeschool for our Kindergartener this year (which worked out well with the timing of our recent move). Schooling with 3 under 5 in an apartment is challenging, but it actually takes up less than an hour of our day and is a beautiful part of our family culture. And less than one hour a day?! This gives us immense freedom to explore, play, experiment, and enjoy our days together.
How do we get this done in under an hour?
Learning is all day in everyday life. “Doing school” for under an hour a day by no means limits our learning to that one hour! We are always learning. We work on building good habits, we cook, read loads of books, play board games, get as much outside play as we can, and constantly learn how to interact with others in loving, respectful ways. Education has been described as “… an atmosphere, a discipline, and a life” (Charlotte Mason, an education reformer). That means my children are constantly learning from the environment they are immersed in.
Quality over quantity. We prioritize our most important subjects: bible, reading, and math. Anything else we accomplish is just gravy! This helps us to prioritize focused attention to our main subjects rather than expect a long school session with multiple subjects for little brains with short attention spans. Being able to focus is an academic skill (and life skill) just as important as our core subjects.
School time is anytime. Formal “school time” for our Kindergartener can happen during naps, after the boys go to bed, or even on the go! Our gym offers a very generous childcare time, so occasionally I can finish my workout, pick up our Kindergartener early, and knock out a reading lesson in the cafe area before we pick up the boys. At home, school can look like coloring at the table next to us, or playing with bowls of rice and scoops on the floor, or sometimes participating with scaled down counting or sorting activities that apply to our work that day.
Family style learning (everyone participates).While formal lessons are reserved for our Kindergartener, we have a family style learning time when we all learn together, focused on the same content at the same time. Specifically, we utilize something called Morning Time. Morning Time is an intentional time when everyone in the family can come together and learn about specific priorities for your family. A typical Morning Time includes bible reading, hymns, and catechism. But it can expand to include the arts, read alouds, and any other subject that you want to start your day with.
We use Brighter Day Press’s Morning Time curriculum that included the topics and resources I wanted for our family, was open and go (requires little to no prep), and adaptable to my kid’s ages. I highly recommend both Morning Time Volume I, or Volume II if you want to start Morning Time but you don’t know where to begin.
What it is: All About Reading (AAR) is phonics based, lightly scripted, highly visual, interactive reading program. It includes a Teacher’s Manual, student activity book, 3 texts filled with decodable stories, letter and sound cards, and letter tiles (or the letter tiles app).
Is it Brain Friendly? Check! AAR is a brain friendly reading program. It is multisensory, which means your student employs multiple senses during each lesson (hearing, sight, and touch) to enhance learning and improve retention. By activating different brain pathways, neural connections are strengthened and learning is deeply wired. As a researcher and educator with a neuro background, I love finding programs like this that tap into brain based learning principles.
What I love about it:
It’s not workbook centered. Workbook based phonics curriculums are great for fun extra work but they demand fine muscle coordination. Many 4 year olds and 5 year olds have not developed the fine motor skills necessary to do the pencil work necessary to complete handwriting assignments. Does that mean we don’t work on handwriting? By no means! We have a fun handwriting book that we use because my daughter is physically capable of correct pencil holding. But my 4 year old son? He listens and soaks up much of the phonics we review and will likely be capable of reading much sooner than he is able to write legibly. That’s okay! We will work on handwriting more extensively when it is developmentally appropriate.
It’s not just brain friendly, it’s EASY to follow. Once you’ve set up your activity pages, it is open and go! I first heard about AAR from April Stevenson at thefivegirlschoolhouse.com and @fivegirlschoolhouse on Instagram. She has saved stories about how she sets up her AAR binders of activity sheets so that they are easy and able to be re–used for multiple children. I followed her instructions on binder set up to the letter (pun intended).
The Teacher’s Manual is an easy to read, wealth of information. It includes specific tips, tricks, background information, and the “why” behind the lessons. The appendix includes lists of games, activities, snacks and rewards, and creative word play for even more reading fun.
“The teachers at my school can’t stop talking about Secret Stories“ my friend and elementary teacher raved. I had never heard of it before. I dug deeper into this program and the more I’ve learned, the more I want to share it!
What it is: “Secret Stories are the secret sounds that some letters make when they get together.” The Secret Stories are a brain-based phonics tool created by teacher Katie Gardener. It is not an independent phonics program–it is used as an adjunct to whatever reading program you choose.
There are many rules in the English language and many many many exceptions to the rules. Letters make one sound in this scenario, a different sound in this scenario, and wait, ANOTHER sound when they get together with this other letter. This leads to confusion and an emphasis on sight words rather than the decoding skills needed to master phonetic based reading. When your child asks “But WHY do those letters make that sound when they are next to each other?” Do you find yourself saying “They just do” and get frustrated at the arbitrary rules? The Secret Stories are a set of stories that explain all of these why’s.
Here’s an example:
ch
“These two love to ride the train down the track, chugging along as they go- “CH-CH-CH-CH! CH-CH-CH-CH!” And that’s the sound they make (church, chin, chew)
BUT…sometimes they pretend to be the train conductor and make his hard C (or K) sound instead! (choir, schedule, ache)
Brain Friendly? Check! “Secret Stories® aligns phonics instruction with how our brains actually learn best, engaging more neural pathways for stronger learner connections and easier skill retrieval. Weaving abstract letter sounds into stories makes them interesting, activating the brain’s positive emotional state and hooking the information into a strong memory-holding template.” —Katie Gardener (Educator and creator of The Secret Stories)
What I love about it:
It fits seamlessly with many phonics based reading programs. We combine Secret Stories flashcards with our All About Reading Level 1 curriculum and love to point out the “secrets” we find while we work.
Visual cues. If it’s easy on the eyes, it’s easy on the brain. The flashcards and posters are a big part of The Secret Stories program, because they provide visual prompts for that letter combination. They can reference the visuals while reading and writing, giving them a big boost in competence, comprehension, and confidence.
The Facebook Support Group has FREE file uploads to help you incorporate the secret stories! Check it out here: Science of Reading meets Science of Learning with Secret Stories Phonics. The group is monitored by the creator Katie Gardener and is full of educators who share their experiences and ideas. We use a free version of the Word Collection Book, found in the files of the group, as a way for my kids to look out for “secrets” in the words they see every day. When they find it, we get their collection book, turn to the page for that particular secret, and then record the new word.
I learned about RightStart Math from a master’s prepared teacher at a homeschool development event. The talk was all about teaching math with an integrated and holistic approach. She taught at a rigorous school which mandated an older, established math curriculum (Saxon Math). She taught from Saxon, and her children who attended the school were also required to use it. But the part that grabbed my attention was that she personally supplemented her children’s math at home with RightStart Mathematics. Instead of “drowning in math worksheets” she and her boys played math games, made shapes, and had fun working their way through the concepts. As a professional educator, she wanted her own children to have RightStart.
What is it? An evidence-based, comprehensive math program that emphasizes visualization of quantities, discourages rote counting (simply reciting numbers in sequential order vs. determining quantity), and provides visual strategies (mental images) for memorizing math facts. Understanding is emphasized over completion. It focuses on chunking in base groups of 5 and 10, a hallmark of common core math education. It balances both conceptual teaching and procedural practice with a Montessori-like approach.
Brain Friendly? Check! Remember, If it’s easy on the eyes, it’s easy on the brain. Children (and adults) thrive on visual representation when learning new concepts. RightStart Math is heavily focused on visual representations and physical manipulatives to understand core math concepts. In fact, RightStart does NOT emphasize counting as a primary way of learning math. It heavily utilizes games for practicing math concepts and learning math facts which increase motivation and interest-led learning. RightStart also prioritizes problem solving. And, because it’s a multisensory program, it uses visuals, songs, and touching physical manipulatives to learn in a more holistic (and effective) way.
What I love about it:
It’s not workbook centered. I’ve already mentioned the developmental pitfalls of an early workbook focus (see above under All About Reading). RightStart Level A is a hands-on program, so it is not directly tied to a student’s ability to write. Since math is inherently practical and embedded in our everyday life, I want to provide a conceptual understanding and foundation first. Will we add more paperwork as we progress? Absolutely! And as the levels progress, RightStart incorporates more worksheets for review. But for beginners, particularly in Level A, it is an interactive approach.
It promotes independent thinking, a hallmark of raising a competent adult.
The National Research Council published a report on the future of mathematics education called Everybody Counts. Here’s what they have to say about thinking and math: “More than most other school subjects, mathematics offers special opportunities for children to learn the power of thought as distinct from the power of authority. This is a very important lesson to learn, an essential step in the emergency of independent thinking.”
Here is an example of this principle on pg. 3 of Level A:
“Place 3 objects on one tray and 2 objects on a second tray. Ask the child if she agrees that there are 3 objects on each tray. It is very important that the child feel free to disagree with you during math time. After a short discussion about the number of objects, add one more object and then ask her if she agrees that they now both have 3.”
It emphasizes games! “Games are to math as books are to reading” —Dr. Joan Cotter, creator of RightStart Math. There are math games incorporated into Level A AND a separate book of math games that many teachers have told me they utilize in their classrooms or homeschools. A plethora of research studies in the past two decades have highlighted the benefits of math games. Using math games to reinforce learning can:
Total time for “formal” academic work: 40 minutes a day. If we add in our Morning Time as a family, we reach 1 hour a day! Even if we add extras we can finish quickly and practice focusing well. I prefer homeschooling with a few, carefully chosen, evidence-based, high quality curriculums. We do occasionally supplement with fun add-ons, but our core subjects are laying a firm foundation for future work. In review, here are our core curriculums: 1) All about Reading, 2) Secret Stories, and 3) Right Start Math. Too add beauty and truth we add Morning Time. For fun handwriting work we use A Reason for Handwriting. These are supported by an everyday learning lifestyle.
Do you want to teach your son to persevere through solving a problem?
Do you want your daughter to bounce back from setbacks?
Our brains love stories AND our brains loving having examples (i.e., models) to follow. This post explains the concept of struggle stories, a low cost & high impact tool for parents to build growth mindset in their children by using storybook characters to model resilience and perseverance.
Low Cost & High Impact
What is a struggle story?
Can struggle stories help preschoolers increase persistence in difficult tasks?
Try This
Takeaway
Struggle stories: a low cost & high impact idea for building resilience and perseverance
Using storybooks is a highly economical way to introduce and reinforce values (like resilience or perseverance) or mindsets (like growth mindset) to our children.
Many of these books are available through local public libraries, making access completely cost free for families.
Research shows that students with growth mindset, who believe that they can achieve through incremental persistent progress rather than talent, perform better than their counterparts with fixed mindsets across academic subjects.
But academics are only part of the picture–using struggle stories to build resilience helps prepare a child for the inevitable challenges that she will face in everyday life.
2. What is a struggle story?
In the Little House on the Prairie series, Laura Ingalls and her family overcome frigid winters, rushing waters, famine, and illness as they create a home and a life in the American pioneer era. In the Harry Potter books by J.K. Rowling, young Harry overcomes evil while facing manipulative adults, giant trolls, and significant peer bullying. In The Swiss Family Robinson, a family survives a shipwreck and learns to thrive on a remote island while facing wild animals, lack of resources, and even fighting off pirates.
Modeling a growth mindset is important, especially from parents and caregivers who can display a living example of trying hard things and persistently moving forward. However, when personal models of growth mindset aren’t readily available in homes or in the classroom, storybooks that share tales of persistence to novel tasks can be readily used as narrative models at little to no cost (Hachigian, 2020).
In her recent dissertation at Columbia University, Amy Hachigian conducted a research study to determine if preschoolers could listen to storybooks (specifically struggle stories) and then demonstrate persistence on difficult tasks. Hachigian defined struggle stories as books that “demonstrate how sustained effort towards a difficult task and the use of multiple problem-solving strategies are essential to goal-achievement despite moments of set-back or failure.”
3. Can struggle stories help preschoolers increase persistence on difficult tasks?
Here’s how Hachigian conducted her research study:
She developed original struggle story books and read them to young children. Two groups of children participated: one group heard struggle stories and one group heard non-struggle stories.
For the group that heard struggle stories, some used roleplay to reinforce the learning and the others heard the reader provide specific praise for the character’s display of persistence.
Then, the researchers gave all participants challenging tasks (puzzles, search and finds, or shape sorters) and measured their time spent attempting to complete them (to measure persistence).
Her findings?
The children that showed significantly higher persistence on challenging tasks were the “...children who heard researchers praise characters throughout each reading of the struggle narratives…”
She did NOT find differences in persistence between the students who heard struggle stories vs. non-struggle stories. Further, roleplaying after hearing struggle stories was not an effective approach in this particular study. But something special happened when vicarious praise was used to reinforce perseverance while reading a struggle story.
Our brains follow models & keep what is reinforced
In the post Modeling How to Shape Brains & Behavior for Better, I mentioned the roles of observational learning and social learning theory. Essentially, these two theories support the use of struggle stories to teach children character values like persistence or resilience. Children observe what adults and peers are doing around them and they encode the behavior. But, some of the behavior is more likely to be encoded if it is reinforced. Reinforcement can be positive (i.e. praise, reward) or negative (i.e., critique, punishment).
The power of modeling and reinforcement means that parents (or characters in a narrative) can model desired behavior and can also reinforce the desired behavior. Even children at very young ages can “…learn messages from their environment and can generalize the value of persistence to novel tasks” (Hachigian, 2020).
There is a difference between praising the process and praising the outcome, though. If our desire is to build growth mindset, we want to highlight and praise the model’s incremental steps toward success despite failure, adversity, or hardship. We want to focus on and praised effort-based success, not an outcome. This is called process praise. For example, instead of saying “Good job” when your child showed you their castle of blocks, you could say “You worked hard to rebuild this several times.”
What about persistence with an impossible task?
An interesting caveat from Hachigian’s study: children showed demonstrated persistence on challenging tasks but NOT on a clearly impossible task. Children were given a shape sorter task in which a new shape presented could not possibly fit in the holes provided. Most participants correctly recognized this task as impossible and didn’t waste their efforts. This is an important consideration as we help our children to develop persistence. Fruitless persistence for an unattainable outcome is unproductive.
We want our children to persevere in finding a solution…when finding a solution is possible.
4. Try This!
Find struggle stories!
Use your local library
Ask the children’s librarian to help you identify struggle stories that are age appropriate. Choose stories that involve a task or problem that your child can relate to (persistence in school, the sport they play, or instrument they are learning, etc.)
Use this list as a starting point for finding picture books AND chapter books you can read aloud to your children. It also includes a free quick guide about struggle stories and the best ways to use them!
Read the struggle story more than once!
Repeated exposure (at least twice) to books increases vocabulary comprehension and aids content retention.
Verbally reinforce the growth mindset of the storybook character (process praise).
As you read aloud, vicariously praise the efforts of the character in the story who tried multiple ways to solve hard problems or endured difficult circumstances (Hachigian, 2020). This reinforces the behavior of sustained effort despite difficulty.
“Wow, Harry didn’t give up even when he was scared.”
“Rosie was so persistent! She kept building even though she didn’t know how it would turn out.”
“I noticed that he tried four different ways to solve the problem.”
“I liked how Laura’s family kept trying, with good attitudes, even when things got hard.”
Ask your child open ended questions about the struggle story.
Who was persistent in the story? Tell me more about that character.
Why do you think they chose that solution?
What kind of problems do you think the character will encounter?
What kinds of tools could they use?
What would you do in that situation?
6 Takeaway
In her dissertation study, Hachiagian concluded that struggle storybooks alone may not increase persistence. However, “…vicarious praise may play a critical role in how effectively children learn from struggle stories and, in turn, how children apply these learnings to situations where persistence is required to succeed.” (pg. 57-58, Hachigian, 2020).
Parents and teachers can consider using vicarious process praise, specifically focused on the efforts and problem solving of characters, while reading storybooks aloud.
Don’t use struggle stories as an isolated tool.
Model growth mindset at home, read struggle stories while praising persistence, and encourage failure as a stepping stone to success. These strategies collectively enhance the building of a growth mindset.
When facing challenges, some children seem devastated over a small setback. Others rebound quickly and tackle a problem with tenacity.
Why do children respond so differently to frustration? And how can we build up our children’s grit and resilience to handle the many problems they will face over the course of their lives?
This post explains growth mindset as a crucial part of building resilient thinkers and lifelong learners. Read on to find out what it is, what’s going on in the brain, and what you can do today to build up a growth mindset in your children.
Contents
Defining growth mindset and fixed mindset
What’s going on in the brain? (Under the hood)
What can parents do? (Try it Today)
Takeaway
1. What is growth mindset?
Our thoughts and self talk create mindsets about who we are and what we are capable of doing.
In the words of Henry Ford, “Whether you think you can or you can’t—you’re right.”
In 2006, Dr. Carol Dweck of Stanford University released her book Mindset(2006), detailing her research of children’s mindsets about intelligence. Essentially, she studied children’s views of intelligence as either a fixed trait that could not be changed or a quality that could be grown and improved. She coined these perspectives as either a 1) fixed mindset or 2) growth mindset.
A fixed mindset:
A fixed mindset sees intelligence or success as things you either have or you don’t. People with fixed mindsets fear failure, evade challenges, and avoid mistakes. (Pawlina & Stanford, 2011)
A person with a fixed mindset sees an obstacle in the road as an immovable barrier and may struggle to see the path around it.
A growth mindset:
The cornerstone of growth mindset is that intelligence is not something you are–intelligence is a quality that can be grown with hard work on challenging problems. It’s the idea that anyone can learn and grow no matter how much you know or whether or not you’ve been told you are “smart.” It’s a positive attitude toward effort and improvement toward learning, no matter the individual starting point (Dweck, 2008; Pawlina & Stanford, 2011; Ng, 2018; Goldberg, 2022; Shaw, 2022)
A person with a growth mindset sees a mistake as a challenge and opportunity.
A person with a growth mindset sees an obstacle in the road as a chance to forge a new path or create their own solution.
A student with a growth mindset views progress as incremental, not instant.
A student with a fixed mindset may see themselves as “a math person” and another person as “not a math person.” or “I’m just not a good reader” and see another student as “naturally good at that.”
A student with a growth mindset doesn’t see themselves as “good” or “bad” at a particular academic subject. They see themselves as a learner who is always improving with incremental steps through focused effort. That simple shift in mindset can help a student with a growth mindset succeed across multiple subject areas or academic skills.
A student with a growth mindset views progress as incremental, not instant.
According to Dweck, when you build a growth mindset in your child:
you build their ability to “bounce back” from setbacks
you teach them that incremental growth is how we learn across our entire lifetime
you embolden them to not fear failure
you give them vision to see mistakes as opportunities
Much of the research on growth mindsets in the last two decades have focused on student self reports or observations of student behavior. However, there are connections between growth mindset and what neuroscientists know about the brain’s structure and function.
2. What’s going on in your child’s brain?
If we were to lift up the hood and see what’s happening in your child’s brain…
…we would see different pathways throughout the brain that are created by learning and training experiences. Those pathways are strengthened (reinforced) through repeated practice, and infrequently used pathways aren’t prioritized and sometimes even pruned (removed).
Neurons (the cells that are the basic units/building blocks of the nervous system) are like the links in a chain that create the pathways in our minds. The reinforcement of frequently used neuronal pathways in the brain is easily summarized by this popular phrase:
Neurons that fire together, wire together.
This is called neuroplasticity–the brain’s ability to change and adapt. The brain isn’t a static organ that sits in your skull, unchanging, throughout your life. It changes its own internal structure by forming neural connections based on experiences with the environment around us.
So…what’s the connection? If a growth mindset is how we view our capacity to change and grow, and neuroplasticity is what is happening to our brains on a micro level…how are these two concepts linked?
Neuroplasticity enables agrowth mindset.
Neuroplasticity, the changing structure and function of the pathways in our brains, provides a physical foundation for developing and expanding our cognitive abilities.
Your child’s brain is physically wired to change and adapt while learning from experience. And that means that your child, through their own mindset, can directly influence their personal learning and brain growth.
While it is possible and beneficial to develop growth mindsets in adulthood, young children and school aged children are in an especially fruitful season of brain development. Their changing brains are ripe for building mindset and expanding their cognitive capacities.
“During the first two and a half decades of life, the human brain is a construction site and learning processes direct its shaping through experience-dependent neuroplasticity.” (Goldberg, 2022)
What kind of experiences can construct growth mindset and take advantage of this developmental season of brain construction? Let’s talk about that next.
3. What can parents do? You can try this today:
You can build a growth mindset in your child by modeling it, teaching them about what their brain is capable of, and using the power of the word “yet.”
1. Model it! Mind your own mindset.
Your growth mindset as a parent (or lack thereof) has direct implications for your child’s views of mistakes and success. Research has shown that parents and teachers greatly influence student growth mindset and performance.
Children see and follow. That means if you have a negative view of failure or you only look for instant results after one attempt at solving a problem, your children will follow in your footsteps. Likewise, if they see you persevere through challenges with focus, or learn a new skill through tiny baby steps of growth, they will follow.
Tell stories of your own ups and downs. This not only provides a model of resilience, the brain is wired for stories and uses narrative to file and retrieve information more easily.
Let your child see you make mistakes, or tell them about times when you’ve failed. But don’t stop there! Let them see you handle the mistake and move forward. Tell them not just about times that you failed, but how you were thinking and how you took action and tried again.
2. Brain Chat! Teach them what their brain can do.
Explaining your brain’s capacity to grow and change with experience and mistakes is crucial for building resilience and perseverance. It’s empowering for students to know that their brains are wired to learn, especially for children who have previously seen themselves in a fixed mindset. It can be a mind opening experience to demonstrate that each of their brains have capacity to build new and difficult skills.
“…inducing a growth mindset by teaching neuroplasticity has an overall positive effect on motivation, achievement, and brain activity.” (Sarasin et al., 2018).
For preschool and elementary aged students, the book Your Fantastic Elastic Brain is of my favorites for introducing the concept of brain based growth:
3. Say YET! Reframe struggles with one powerful word.
Reframing is a strategy for shifting a person’s perspective in a positive way. The goal is to provide your child with language that shifts negative or limiting self-talk to growth oriented views.
You can change your own words to support a growth mindset, and you can directly challenge words of a fixed mindset in your child.
One of the easiest and simplest ways to reframe is to use the word yet.
“If a student calls me over with a problem and says, “I can’t do this,” I make sure to reframe their initial statement to “I can’t do this…yet” before I help them. “ (Shaw, 2022)
YET is a powerful word that communicates to your child that you are optimistic about their success in the future and it also doesn’t let your child back away from the problem altogether. Use the word YET along with your support and encouragement to help your child persevere through learning challenges.
4. Takeaways
Talk about struggles as a normal part of life and not things to be feared.
Building a growth mindset is a crucial skill for lifelong learning, because if your child can apply himself to anything with effort and practice, and stick with it, he can grow and learn. What skill could be more applicable for preparing him for the challenges of the future, and for everyday life?
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Are you a parent of young children? Have you been thinking “ChatGPT isn’t even on my radar. I don’t need to worry about that yet.“
Even if you have preschoolers or elementary aged children, this is a valuable post for you. There are simple, low cost, high impact ideas to build teachable thinking skills now that could improve their ability to navigate generative AI, later.
Check out the infographic for specific ways to teach these crucial thinking skills and adjust them to match your specific child’s age and capability.
Or…
Are you a parent of tweens or teens?
You may have heard about ChatGPT from your student’s school or teacher. Some middle school and high schools have banned this tech from their campuses and others have embraced it as part of the modern day classroom.
If you are already familiar with ChatGPT, read on and learn more about teachable thinking skills we can build up in our teens and tweens, whether they are currently using ChatGPT or not.
In light of ChatGPT and its capabilities, do our kids still need thinking skills apart from AI?
What thinking skills are essential now, more than ever?
Executive functioning
Information literacy
Asking the right questions
Communication
Ethical thinking
How do we teach those skills?
Infographic
Takeaways
References
1. In light of ChatGPT and its capabilities, do our kids still need thinking skills apart from AI?
Are thinking skills obsolete?
I’ve heard an argument that our children won’t need to learn to do basic cognitive tasks, such as remembering, classifying, summarizing, interpreting, or even comparing or contrasting, because generative AI is capable. ChatGPT can tell you the right answers and formulate responses for you… so why teach our children those things?
I think this argument assumes 1) that the AI is capable of quality output every single time (which is already suspect1) and 2) that the AI will always be readily accessible (high user volumes sometimes render the service unavailable, and paywalls may limit inclusion of varying socioeconomic groups).
But, for the sake of argument, even if generative AI can perform a function accurately and is easily accessible—does omitting the training of thinking skills benefit your child in any way?
Products vs. processes
Now more than ever, our children absolutely need thinking skills and the ability to communicate, apart from AI. They need the skills to navigate the digital world well.
Generative AI generates a product or outcome. Teaching our children to think means we are developing their thinking processes.
A reliance on generative AI can potentially lead to a decrease in thinking skills because it provides quick solutions and generates ideas without the user needing to engage in the cognitive processes that are involved in creating those solutions or ideas.
We aren’t training child robots capable of spitting out answers. We are cultivating minds with the ability to thoughtfully consider ideas and articulately respond.
The allure of a shortcut is certainly present, given the sheer number of ways we can access generative AI. But I don’t want my children to always choose the easy route with a chatbot. The reason and voice of chatGPT could potentially be helpful, but I don’t want it to replace their own.
2. What thinking skills are essential now, more than ever?
Executive functioning
Information literacy
Asking the right questions
Communication
Ethical thinking
Some overlap, but all are important for navigating digital experiences.
1. Executive Functioning
Executive functioning is a foundation for effective thinking skills–a set of underlying cognitive processes. Executive function involves regulating and controlling the other cognitive functions of the brain like attention, memory, self-control, or problem solving. Executive function is like an air traffic controller who is managing the coming and going of planes in multiple lanes at the same time.2
By regulating thoughts, emotions, and actions, students can focus on what they are learning. Generative AI like ChatGPT can provide a wealth of information and entertainment, making distraction almost effortless. Therefore, students need to develop the ability to stay focused on the task at hand and avoid getting sidetracked.
2. Information literacy
Information literacy is the ability to find, evaluate, and use information effectively. Information literacy isn’t just a thinking skill–it’s a life skill crucial for navigating the age of digital information as it becomes more and more difficult to differentiate between credible and non-credible sources.
Lack of information literacy skills can contribute to the spread of false information and can lead to poor decision making when there is inaccurate or incomplete information. Using low quality AI responses could lead to academic, professional, or personal consequences.
Asking the right questions is both an art and a foundational thinking skill. Asking the right questions involves identifying gaps in knowledge or understanding, and exploring different perspectives. The way a question is asked will determine what information ChatGPT provides.
You will get completely different answers from ChatGPT if you ask “What is a thinking skill?” vs. “What are the most important thinking skills that parents can teach their children and how can they do this in a low cost way?”
Which of those questions would provide you with the most useful information?
4. Communication
Communication, the way we share ideas with others, is both a thinking skill and a social skill. Our brains think of what we want to say and how to say it in ways that other people can understand.
It is easier than ever to replace communication with AI generated responses. ChatGPT is excellent when crafting an email, but will your teen be able to respond face to face in a verbal exchange with their supervisor at work? Communication is essential for success in all relationships, whether at home, school, play, or in the workforce.
If students are over reliant on AI to communicate for them, they may not develop and hone the skills needed to speak clearly and effectively on their own.
5. Ethical thinking
Ethical thinking is examination of values and beliefs and making decisions in line with those values and beliefs. Using AI with integrity will require consideration of complex ethical issues.
Students (and teachers) must recognize that their own values may not be reflected in ChatGPT or in the way other people utilize it. Without ethical thinking skills, students may not appreciate the responsibility for the content they generate with the help of chatGPT. They will also need to identify biases and stereotypes, and even respond to inappropriate or harmful information.
3. How do we teach these skills?
Use these tips as a starting point for building up cognitive elements like executive function and honing skills in information literacy, communication, asking the right questions, and thinking ethically.
You’ll notice that modeling, reflection, and exploration are key components of teaching any key thinking skills. For more on modeling, check out the post Modeling: How to Shape Brains & Behavior For Better.
4. Takeaways
There are ethical, moral, and philosophical implications for using generative AI and as it changes and its application spreads, our children need to be able to use it with integrity and skill.
ChatGPT should not be used to replace thinking skills, it should be used to enhance them.
In the era of ChatGPT, thinking skills are more important than ever. There is currently no research stating that chatGPT can reduce thinking skills in young students, because good research takes time, and there hasn’t been enough time since its release to conduct high quality research. However, like any technological tool, it’s the way in which it is used that has the greatest impact.
I’m hopeful that in the coming months and years, we will see research specifically exploring the benefits and risks of using generative AI, particularly in education. I’m hopeful that we will see research based “best practices” for using ChatGPT with young learners. I’m hopeful that we will see studies of ChatGPT’s impact on brain function that are longitudinal (observing the same participants and variables over a long period of time, sometimes for years).
I’m cautiously optimistic.
The way we interact with generative AI like ChatGPT is evolving and will be different a year from now.
But today, with the information available to me, I’m focusing on teaching thinking skills that can prepare my children for whatever ChatGPT has in store for us.
Looking for more?
Put these skills into practice right away with your middle or high school student by grabbing the free student workbook Smart Kids Chat Smarter that walks you the C.R.A.A.P. test for evaluating ChatGPT output.
The goal of this post is to 1) share cautious optimism about the use of chatGPT as a learning tool and 2) provide practical tools for curious parents who want to help their children navigate this new technology.
This is the first in a 2 part series about ChatGPT and generative AI. Check back May 1, 2023 to get Part 2 or sign up to get a link in your inbox when it’s released.
Let’s explore this ultramodern, hyped technology together…
Contents:
What is ChatGPT?
Why should parents care?
Is ChatGPT an educational tool that parents can use?
Takeaway: A logical approach to ChatGPT
1. What is ChatGPT?
Artificial intelligence (AI), the creation of intelligent computer programs using science and engineering1 is not a new concept. It is the backbone of modern computing advances. Evolutions in AI capability have led to generative AI–computational models that produce “human like text” 2 that is “convincingly fluent”3 and even images or videos.
Generative AI has been used predominantly in research or academic contexts.
Until, on November 30, 2022, when a California-based company named Open AI released something called chatGPT, initially free, for public use. ChatGPT is form of generative AI. It allows users to enter text prompts and receive responses in personal language.
It’s basically a conversational exchange of information between you (or your child) and an intelligent bot.
ChatGPT is one of the most powerful, largest language processing AI models the world has ever seen.2
Since its release, the world has been abuzz with both excitement… and concern. And similar products are being released from competitors around the world, in a vast array of applications.
Simply put, even though it isn’t the only form of generative AI, the public interest in and acceptance of chatGPT has changed things. We will see ripple effects of generative AI moving more swiftly across many different disciplines.
2. Why should parents care?
ChatGPT has implications for the structure of education, the creation of novel academic work, and academic integrity.
LIke chatGPT, generative AI is becoming more easily accessible. Understanding how it works and training students how to use it is important for parents, because as AIs role expands, students are highly likely to encounter programs like chatGPT any time they go online.
How we respond to questions or comments from our children about generative AI matters. Your knowledge of chatGPT and similar AI and the way you speak about it reflects your own thinking processes. Children take note of the thoughts and opinions of respected adults. This means as parents, we must watch our words and consider how we communicate with our children about this new technology.
ChatGPT is here to stay. How do parents move forward?
By learning basic information about what chatGPT is and how to use it intentionally, parents can mitigate fear and demonstrate curiosity.
A lack of knowledge can sometimes lead to fear. Fear of the unknown can lead to controlling behavior to minimize a perceived threat. For a parent who is unfamiliar with generative AI and only sees news articles with polarizing descriptions about the potential malicious uses of new tech, there may be a temptation to deny its existence or control every aspect of its use.
As a parent, you can’t control the algorithm that directs a chatbot. But, you can prepare the child who is going to use it, by exploring it together and teaching them strategies to use it wisely and successfully.
3. Is chatGPT an educational tool that parents can use?
Yes…with cautionand oversight.
One of the reasons for the massive reaction and excitement for chatGPT is because of its expansive utility. It is a clever and useful tool. “History has shown us that when used appropriately and with discretion, technologies generally enhance education rather than detract from it”(emphasis mine).4
Here are a few of the many ways it can be used in education:
Ask the right questions
When working with chatGPT or similar AI, the prompt given by the user initiates the entire conversation. So working with chatGPT is a great way to introduce the importance of asking great questions, and determining how to frame the prompt.
Use chatGPT to dive deeper into a topic that you already have some familiarity with and see if it provides new insights or novel resources you haven’t previously considered
Spark a flame
Use chatGPT to explore a novel topic your child or student is interested in
So yes, chatGPT is a tool. BUT…some tools are dangerous if you put them in the hands of a novice.
A scalpel in the hands of a surgeon can carve out cancer and change someone’s life. A scalpel in the hands of a toddler could lead to danger and injury. A hammer wielded by a carpenter can create a work of art. A hammer in the hands of a novice with no guidance isn’t going to produce a quality outcome and will probably cause frustration and confusion.
And, a tool is only helpful if it is suited to your task. A hammer isn’t the best choice if you need a screwdriver or a chainsaw. ChatGPT is a tool, but it may not be useful if it doesn’t bring value to you (or your child’s) particular work.
Amidst the frenzy over chatGPT, there are also many concerns. Here are a few to consider:
Misinformation
There is no guarantee that the information provided by generative AI is accurate, because it pulls from potentially inaccurate internet sources. The human-like tone and plausible response can lead to a tendency to believe the information provided, whether it is actually true or not.
Bias
Generative AI has produced racial, political, and gender bias in responses.5
ChatGPT’s training data is “likely to encompass the entirety of the web” which includes inherent biases from authors and content creators because all humans are biased.
While all learning processes are susceptible to bias, there is concern for the algorithms behind generative AI and their potential for programmed bias. There is a push for OpenAI to make their programming transparent for ethical oversight to mitigate this risk.
Plagiarism
There are currently no references in the responses of chatGPT, and the program’s parent company and others are working to generate new software to detect text generated by AI. There are concerns for academic integrity and the ability of students to find workarounds to assignments using chatGPT. Some schools are banning chatGPT from campus and others are embracing it as part of the modern classroom environment.
Given the potential problems with chatGPT, along with its numerous uses, parents would be wise to approach the conversations about this tool with both curiosity and caution.
In his book Digital Minimalism, computer scientist Cal Newport describes a common sense approach to “decide what [digital] tools to use, for what purposes, and under what conditions.“6 He states “Technology is intrinsically neither good nor bad.” Technology is a tool. This way of thinking “…is not a rejection of technology or a reactionary act of skepticism; it is, by contrast, an embrace of the immense value these new tools can offer…if we’re willing to do the hard work of figuring out how to best leverage them on behalf of the things we truly care about.“7
4. Takeaways: A logical approach to ChatGPT
If you are a parent who is unfamiliar with ChatGPT, here are some things to thoughtfully consider as you explore new tech:
Model curiosity and wisdom as you learn about ChatGPT and process questions with your child.
When you read about ChatGPT in the news or hear about it from friends or family, take notes of what words they choose to describe it. Pay special attention to polarized thinking (the use of all or nothing or black and white thinking) or fear based language. Polarized thinking labels concepts as all good or all bad. In reality, there are usually shades of gray when evaluating something new. If you only say that it’s the best thing since sliced bread, or in contrast, completely ban it from your household, then you are modeling and promoting polarized thinking.
Set up structured learning experiences to foster experimentation with ChatGPT for you and your child in a hands on-way.
Whether it’s sparking the flame of a new academic interest, learning the art of asking great questions, or evaluating the quality of information that AI provides, there are ways to use ChatGPT intentionally and productively.
Summary
Parents can approach chatGPT with cautious optimism as they commit to learning more about this new and popular tool.
There are both benefits and concerns to using generative AI.
Start an open ended conversation with your student about chatGPT and how they can use it with integrity. Use the printable discussion guide to get started.
You have an overwhelming number of choices when investing in toys for the children in your life. How do you go about choosing a toy that will help them think or grow, not just entertainment them? How do you determine which toys are worth the price tag and which sets you should confidently walk by?
This post explains how LEGO® bricks are a high impact and high value educational toy so that parents or grandparents aiming for play-based learning can invest in quality tools. Not just toys–tools to help them grow and learn to think.
5 ways LEGO® bricks promote learning
LEGO® bricks are a high value toy
Ways to invest in LEGO® bricks
Takeaway
LEGO® is a trademark of the LEGO® Group of companies which does not sponsor, authorize or endorse this site.
If you have bins of LEGO® bricks stashed away in your attic or garage, it’s time to bring them out.
LEGO® bricks are basically indestructible, painful to step on, and a household name that most parents are familiar with. This line of plastic building blocks consists of varying colors and pieces that interlock to create objects such as buildings, vehicles, characters, robots, and more.
A unique feature of these bricks is versatility as both a fun toy and as multifunctional educational tool.
5 Ways LEGO® Bricks Promote Learning
1. Foster Creativity. The open ended nature of LEGO® bricks allows infinite combinations, providing limitless possibilities for play.
Children can generate new ideas and create their own objects, characters, world, etc.
Using LEGO® toys, children can extend their imagination into physical play by taking their ideas and creating real, tangible models they can then transform and modify.
2. Follow Logical Instructions. LEGO® sets and systems come with building instructions that incorporate the parts and allow them to follow a predetermined model.
The process of building with these manuals is a practical life skill that can be applied in any assembly that requires instructions.
Learning to use a systematic approach to an activity or problem is a foundation for using other systematic thinking strategies. For example, students comfortable following a series of predetermined stages are better prepared for following the logical steps of the scientific method.
3. Build STEM Skills. And speaking of the scientific method…STEM (science, technology, engineering, and math) learning is a high priority for modern education, given job demand in these areas that continues to grow. As demand for skills in STEM areas increases, toys that introduce these skills are highly valuable.
Recently, the LEGO® application to STEM fields has expanded to include hands on coding skills. New robotics kits2area available, in progressively challenging levels, allowing children to grow familiar with the combination of coding and play while incorporating the original colorful blocks they are already familiar with.
4. Learning through Story. Our brains are wired for stories–stories are easy for us to remember and they help make learning more effective. Information is more easily retained and retrieved when it is shared through a story3. Many sets are based on familiar themes: favorite cartoons, comic book characters, Disney princesses, beloved books and movies, video game stars, familiar villians…
When a LEGO® structure is related to a familiar story, a child can link their physical play to that story and cement related concepts.
LEGO® toys can also aid children in the creation of their own original stories. Writing activities with LEGO® pieces could include prompts about a particular LEGO® minifigure, the creation of a storyboard, or even writing an original instruction booklet for their novel brick creation.
5. Add Tactile Learning to Any Subject. The versatility of LEGO® bricks allows them to be incorporated into any subject or unit study5, giving little fingers a way to physically engage with the topic. LEGO® toys are also an ideal hands-on activity during read alouds at home or in the classroom. Here are a few ideas on adding LEGO® bricks to any subject:
Bible Study: Create a scene from a favorite bible story.
History: While reviewing a history concept, build a related historic structure. You could construct a Roman coliseum while you review Latin terms or read about the Roman empire.
Math: Use individual bricks as manipulatives for math lessons. Have younger children sort by colors, sizes, or shapes. Measure your creations and record your findings. Duplicate patterns.
Science: Introduce coding and programming technology. Physics principles applied during construction of a LEGO® building can introduce and reinforce engineering principles.
Reading or Language Arts: Build words together brick by brick. Put letters on the individual bricks and let the children assemble. Use minifigures as writing prompts or have the children create their own instruction manuals.
LEGO® Bricks are High Value
One of the goals of Thriving Little Thinkers is to share strategies that are low cost and high impact. LEGO® bricks and sets are not low cost, but they are high value and high impact tools.
Children (and adults) can use them to create and then take their object apart and build new things, again and again and again and again. Not only can LEGO® bricks be reused for play, they physically last and can often be resold for what they were purchased for, and sometimes for a profit6 if a collectible is involved.
Purchasing LEGO® toys for full price can be an expense. However, in terms of the cost for investment, purchasing LEGO® products is a win. They are one of the most unlimited open ended toy collections on the market. Their versatility, durability, reusability, popularity, and likelihood of high resale price, offset upfront costs in terms of value.
There are many ways to invest in LEGO® toys in a low cost way.
Ways to Invest in LEGO® toys at a Lower Cost:
Buy used. Consider an online marketplace for secondhand sets. Ask family and friends if they have unused bricks and purchase from them. Remember that you can resell your own bricks as well due to their lasting value.
Utilize free brick tables at your local library, bookstore, or children’s museum. Many local libraries have LEGO® tables and supplies in the children’s department that can be used for free! Our local library carries shelves of books about LEGO® toys with ideas for builds, links to educational topics such as math or history, and even instruction manuals.
Incentivize. Use LEGO® toys as a special incentive to reward an accomplishment or behavior, such as completing a book series or meeting a goal.
Teach money skills. Have your child save their money and purchase their own LEGO® toys to reinforce financial responsibility and the importance of work and savings.
Utilize wishlists. Add LEGO® toys to wishlists for birthdays,or holidays so that family or friends can help build your child’s collection.
Takeaway: LEGO® bricks and sets are high value and high impact toys with educational benefits. LEGO® bricks are learning tools!
Initial investment costs can be lowered by using nearby resources and purchasing preowned sets. Find free bricks at your local library, bookstore, community center, or children’s museum.
Parents can utilize LEGO® toys for play at home to: foster creativity, follow logical insructions, build STEM skills, complement learning through story, and use bricks in any topic of study.
This post explains why a busy, fast environment can hinder thinking in our children and explore how parents can provide time and space to think.
Slowing down is a low cost and high impact way to help your child practice focused thinking.
Is your child too busy to think? An environment of hurry hinders thinking.
Time and space for thinking can produce deeper engagement with a task.
Try This [infographic]
Takeaways
Too Busy to Think
Modern American culture glorifies “busy.” Our own lack of margin, as adults, can manifest in time pressures for our children. Rushing from activity to activity removes the open time necessary to focus, think, create, or innovate. Overscheduling can be exhausting not just physically but also mentally–children who are overscheduled are hindered in their ability to solve problems and make good decisions1.
An environment of hurry hinders thinking.
Between our adult agendas and our children’s schedules, down time could be called the new American Dream. Down time is needed more than ever, and more elusive now than ever.
Down time is critical because it provides opportunities for 1) play, 2) relaxation, and 3) connection1. These are essential ingredients for healthy brains:
Play is a child’s “work”. Play allows experimentation, testing, and practice.
Relaxation is an antidote to stress, which is important because stress blocks our access to the front of our brains (the prefrontal cortex) where more advanced thinking occurs.
Connection is essential in grounding our children and knowing that they have a safe person with whom they can make mistakes and grow. Connection fosters resilience (capacity to endure hardship) and a growth mindset (ability to learn and grow with practice) in our children.
Our fast pace can hinder our children when they lack opportunities for focused play, lack a physical environment to promote thinking due to stimulation and distraction, or when the fast pace leads us as parents to rush them through play and disrupt their focus.
Over time, our brains can become hardwired for fast and shallow thoughts rather than deep thinking orfocused attention.
Our children—and us– need time and space to think.
Time and space for thinking can produce deeper engagement with a task.
Have you ever been so focused on a project, absorbed in a book, or captivated by a challenging problem that you became unaware of your surroundings? After being in this focused state, did you feel a sense of satisfaction in your work, or relief from common worries that occupy your mind?
In everyday life you might hear someone say they were “in the zone” at work. In modern psychological research, this is called hyperfocus, sustained attention, or even a “flow state.” (*See the end of this article for two important clarifications about the labels hyperfocus and flow).
Researchers describe flow as “full task engagement2” that involves absorption with a task and less thinking about oneself. There are a few key criteria: 1) the task is fun or interesting, 2) there is sustained attention, 3) the environment is diminished (time flies and you aren’t paying attention to your surroundings), and 4) task performance improves (you are able to do your work well).
While there is not consensus regarding which parts of the brain are specifically linked to hyperfocus (possibly a combination of attention networks)3, there are known benefits2 to flow:
stimulus of the reward system in the brain (positive emotions and satisfaction)
improved task performance
enhanced concentration
It is beneficial for our children to become engrossed in a task. And the most typical flow experience is play4! Children typically choose play tasks that are fun or interesting to them (the first criteria of flow), but whether or not they deeply immersive themselves in play depends on the child, the environment, and their capacity for sustained attention (typically increasing with maturity). As adults, we can’t always predict when our child will get “in the zone” for deep play, but we can create an environment that supports their concentration efforts.
Focused play is incredibly useful to our children both now and for their future endeavors. Think about the concentration needed to practice playing a new piece of music, or sit and think through a challenging LEGO® set, or construct a castle from wood scraps in the backyard. Later in life, they will need to focus and take exams, write papers, create presentations, and solve real-world problems in business, politics, the classroom, the operating room, the church, or wherever they choose to work and create.
Does your pace of life allow time for you and your children to deeply focus on something interesting? Can you lose yourself in a great book? Can your son lose track of time while he paints? Can your daughter tune out the rest of the world when she is coloring?
Try This
Making time for thinking provides opportunity for focused thinking. A physical space that promotes focused attention sets up our child’s brain for success. The parent’s role is to warmly support focused attention by watching and knowing when to encourage and when to hold back and resist interrupting.
Make time for focused thinking
When? Choose a gap between activities on your paper planner or Google calendar and leave that white space. Choose a time when your child is well rested and already fed. During that time, provide your child with a single open ended toy or specific task that can lead to immersive play. For example, provide only a train and set of tracks, or only a basket of building blocks.
Consider exchanging an extracurricular for open play, particularly in young children. “Even structured after school activities may take a toll on a child’s ability to stay engaged with one thing for as long as it takes to lose herself in it.5”
How much time? As long as it takes for a child to lose themselves in one single activity. It is okay if the window of time is small at first. Aim for a few minutes at first and then encourage longer periods of play as the child’s capacity for sustained attention improves. Choose a realistic expectation (only a few minutes for very young children) and remember that their capabilities improve over time, not in one play session.
Make space for focused thinking
Our child’s environment (the physical place and the people around them) can promote or disrupt attention.
The physical place
A screen free environment is the best for building attention skills. Fast paced moving images and intuitive programming remove the workload from your child’s brain, and we want your child to think for himself rather than distracting from cognitive work with a moving image.
Decrease obvious sources of stimulation such as loud noises, music (unless it is classic or instrumental), or very bright lights.
Choose outside6as often as possible. All children benefit from calming effects nature play, and even children with known attention deficits have shown fewer symptoms after time outdoors6.
The parent
School aged children may benefit from solitude, while younger children will likely benefit from having a parent nearby. Space for thinking does not always have to include solitude, which is sometimes unrealistic and does not reflect typical learning and play that occurs in pairs and groups in young children.
A parent’s involvement can positively or negatively impact a child’s attention.
Observe before you interrupt. When your child is working independently on a task and looks very focused, it may actually be distracting to verbally praise and interrupt.
Controlling how the child plays or intruding in play is counterproductive to building attention or independent thinking skills7.
In a study on focused attention in toddlers, researchers explored connections between mothers’ parenting and toddlers’ attention and found that a mother’s control of play was negatively related to attention scores:
“Although more active guidance may facilitate attention and play in infants and younger toddlers, parental behaviors that continue to reflect high levels of behavioral control or explicit direction and intervention can be inappropriate for more skilled toddlers, providing little support for children’s own natural tendencies to engage with objects and tasks in the environment and instead being disruptive or frustrating. For children who are already poorly attentive, parental interference may be particularly detrimental…7“
The study also reported negative impacts of mothers intruding in play, such as “overwhelming the child with a barrage of stimulation, changing the focus of play without regard to the child’s interest, or physically manipulating the child or the child’s actions.7“
In the same longitudinal study7, greater use of mothers’ praise during teaching tasks (not independent tasks) predicted higher attention and both mothers’ warmth (i.e. affectionate or supportive) and mothers‘ positive affect (positive mood or expressions) were positively related to attention.
Essentially, mothers who were warm, positive, and encouraging at the right times were most beneficial for their child’s attention.
Takeaways
By providing time and space for our children to practice focused thinking (low cost), we encourage important cognitive skills (high impact)
Slowing the pace of life can create thriving little thinkers. Leave margin in life! Leave room for learning, exploration, creativity, or design. Give your child room to wonder. Leave space and time for curiosity.
If we fill the child’s schedule to the brim, where is the room for his thoughts?
Providing margin in your child’s schedule may actually save you money if you choose to eliminate costs toward entertainment or schedule-fillers. Structured extracurriculars can be wonderful, but not if they dominate the schedule and eat all of your child’s margin for focused play. Talk with your spouse and your child about what activities to keep and which to try another time. Decreasing distractions in your environment does not incur costs. Taking your child outside also costs nothing, and greatly benefits attention skills. As the parent, you can support thinking as a supportive and warm observer (and encourager) of your child’s play. Your presence takes connection, not coin.
Downtime impacts our children’s brains and our family cultures. It provides opportunities for play, relaxation, and connection. Slowing down creates opportunities for learning. Hurry hinders thinking. A physical space that promotes focused attention sets up our child’s brain for success. A supportive, observant parent can positively impact a child’s attention. Children need to practice focused attention through play to build important skills for their futures.
Does your child enjoy building? Practice focused attention using LEGO® bricks and build thinking skills in the process. Read 5 Ways LEGO® Bricks Promote Learning to find out more.
Two Clarifications on Flow and Hyperfocus
Hyperfocus is often mentioned in the context of autism, schizophrenia, or ADD/ADHD in which attention is impacted by neurological changes, but hyperfocus occurs in neurotypical individuals as well (people with typical neurological development) and is incredibly useful2.
To be clear, this flow state is specific to being absorbed in a task, so it is NOT the same use of “flow” used in eastern religion. It isn’t referring to zen, taoism or other attempts to empty the mind. It is task specific.
This post describes four ways to use kitchen experiences to introduce numbers and basic math concepts while connecting with early learners. Involving kids in the kitchen is a low cost and high impact way to build important thinking skills.
Growing familiar with numbers
The Kitchen
4 Ways to learn about numbers in the kitchen (infographic)
Takeaways
Growing Familiar with Numbers
If you have a preschooler or young elementary student at home, they are likely learning to recognize and begin to work with numbers. Growing familiar with numbers is an essential foundation for higher math skills. This is called numeracy (the ability to understand and work with numbers).
For most children, early numeracy is acquired through activities in the home and everyday environment, before they reach the school setting.
According to a review of current research1:
Children exposed to “fewer and less complex everyday number activities and experiences” have shown poorer numerical knowledge during preschool and kindergarten compared to peers
Early knowledge about numbers has been linked to performance in formal math as a child grows
Our kids use memory, language, and fine motor skills when learning to work with numbers.
So… if recognizing and understanding numbers is important for our children’s academic success, and is chiefly acquired through the home and everyday environment, what practical steps can you take in your own home? I suggest that we start in the kitchen.
The Kitchen
The kitchen of your home is a functional workspace filled with numbers and mathematical concepts. It is often a central place where people gather several times a day, providing multiple opportunities to involve your little thinkers (and cooks).
Your kitchen can provide not only meals for your family, it can also provide early number skills for your little thinkers.
4 Ways to Learn Numbers in the Kitchen
Basic recognition of numbers. Find numbers and say them aloud together. Your child will learn that numbers are part of everyday life and that they are useful. Places to look for numbers:
scales
measuring cups
ingredient containers
appliances such as microwave or stove
printed in recipes
Counting and moving from number labels to concrete amounts. Use items in your kitchen to provide a visual and tactile (a.k.a. touchable) understanding of a number.
Example: Find the number 3 in your recipe and count 3 scoops of flour so that your child can visually see the amount and connect it to the number 3.
You can use anything in your kitchen: chocolate chips, cookies, scoops of ice cream, the number of applesauce pouches your toddler has eaten…the opportunities are endless. Just start counting!
Comparing magnitudes or amounts. Point out the differences and describe what you see.
Which cup has more flour? Which cup has less flour?
Which cookie is larger? Which cookie is smaller?
Which measuring cup is taller? Which measuring cup is shorter?
Changing amounts (Adding or subtracting)
Now that your child can recognize which has more and which has less, practice altering amounts (adding or subtracting).
I had 5 chocolate chips in this bowl, but I moved 4 chocolate chips to this bowl. Let’s count them again. Now, which one has more? Which one has less?
Takeaways
Involving kids in the kitchen and pointing out numbers or math concepts as you work is a low cost activity. The primary “expense” is your time and patience. Children don’t need fancy kitchen gadgets or formal cooking classes. They can build important thinking skills on your current grocery budget while you helping you prep their normal, everyday snack or meal.
Participating in family cooking is a high impact activity that builds important thinking skills. Numeracy is a primary goal, but children also learn skills in sequencing, measuring, planning, and even get sensory play when they interact with different ingredients.
While this post primarily focuses on early numeracy for young children such as preschoolers, you can also involve older children by highlighting the practicality of numbers and math in the kitchen. Your older child can help reinforce basic number concepts with your littles, and you can also adapt these strategies to higher level math skills:
Incorporate fractions and percentages with pizza slices
Practice multiplying or dividing to change the portions of a recipe
Recognize differences in units of measure and practice conversions, such as cups to liters or tablespoons to milliliters
I am not suggesting that you have an all day academic kitchen school session in which you go over review each of these number concepts and then never talk about it again. The best learning happens during and after informal experiences. Our children learn through our daily interactions.
Start small. When you are getting ready for dinner tonight, invite your child to count the number of potatoes you are going to boil, or the number of Chic-fil-a kids meals you are going to order for pick up.
Keep it casual. No formal cooking school is needed to introduce numbers in the kitchen. You don’t need to use fancy math words or ask calculus level questions. Keep the pressure low and allow your child to explore the items you are counting.
Don’t buy anything. You don’t need new kitchen equipment to introduce early number concepts. Count what you have available.
Have fun! Watching out for numbers in a recipe, counting chocolate chips, and dumping flour into a bowl while making chocolate chip cookies sounds much more exciting than a counting worksheet.
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Did you know that one of the best ways to improve your child’s thought life is to improve your own?
When you demonstrate your own love of learning, you model for them what it could look like to love learning themselves. When you show them how to unwind with a great book at the end of the day, they learn to to value the written word and enjoy the process of reading and learning from good books.
Teachers, professors, instructors, and coaches typically receive ongoing training in their areas of expertise to help them be the best possible influence on their students and athletes.
The idea here is similar…you can improve your child’s mental game by improving your own.
Reading and learning for yourself, as a parent, increases your own thinking skills and is a low cost and high impact way for you to improve your child’s thinking skills. It’s a win-win.
Here is the list of 5 books I highly recommend for raising thriving little thinkers:
1.The Whole Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
A great book about brain basics with specific strategies for promoting cognitive integration (using your whole brain). This book is written by the same authors as The Yes Brain. It is research based, well written, easy to understand, and clearly organized.
One favorite quote: “As parents become more aware and emotionally healthy, their children reap the rewards and move toward health as well. That means that integrating and cultivating your own brain is one of the most loving and generous gifts you can give your children.”
2. The Yes Brain by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
Another great book about brain basics. This book is helpful for providing specific strategies in building resilience and curiosity in kids. I don’t want my children to fear failure, or avoid mistakes. This book explains how to cultivate the right environment as the parent to promote the mindset we want our children to master. This book is written by the same authors as The Whole Brain Child and similarly research based, well written, easy to understand, and clearly organized.
One favorite quote: “What you do and don’t value, and what you do and don’t give attention to, will impact who your child becomes.”
3. The Read Aloud Family by Sarah Mackenzie
A great book about academic thinking and family culture, this one is helpful no matter what age your children are. Sarah Mackenzie crafts compelling arguments for cultivating a read-aloud environment in your home. She explains the academic benefits and the deepened relationships resulting from reading books together as a family.
One favorite quote: “When we read aloud, we give our kids practice living as heroes. Practice dealing with life-and-death situations, practice living with virtue, practice failing at virtue. As the characters in our favorite books struggle through hardship, we struggle with them. We consider whether we would be as brave, as bold, as fully human as our favorite heroes. And then we grasp—on a deeper, more meaningful level—the story we are living ourselves as well as the kind of character we will become as that story unfolds.”
4. Teaching from Rest: A Homeschooler’s Guide to Unshakable Peace by Sarah Mackenzie
Don’t let the word “homeschooler” lead you away from this book–replace the word “teaching” with “mothering” and you can quickly summarize the contents and apply it to your home. Sarah Mackenzie, the same author as The Read Aloud Family, writes beautiful words of encouragement for a mother who feels too much rests on your shoulders. While it is written from a homeschooling perspective, the concept of parenting and teaching from rest is applicable to any parent wanting to raise thriving little thinkers.
A favorite quote: “It’s easy to forget that teaching is holy work. We forget that building up the intellect- teaching our children to really think- does not happen by the might of human reason, but rather by the grace of God. On an ordinary day, you and I likely have a set of tasks we’ve scheduled for our kids. But it’s more than math. It’s more than history. It’s the building up of our children’s minds and hearts, and we can only do that if we realize that this is how we thank Him for the graces He so lavishly pours out on us.”
5. Awakening Wonder: Opening Your Child’s Heart to the Beauty of Learning by Sally Clarkson
I found this book to be more inspirational and beautifully written than practical. But the vivid picture of a child who loves learning has stuck with me and encourages me as I teach and train my children. Sally Clarkson describes her experiences teaching her own four children and how she created a culture of “wonder” and tried to create a “wonder-filled life.” It’s an excellent source of inspiration for those seeking to instill a love of learning in their families.
One favorite quote: “Education is not about enacting a prescriptive, boxed sort of curriculum-based classroom, but instead is about passing on a legacy of a love for learning, an independent joy in discovery, a motivation to bring light, beauty, and goodness back into the world of our children.”
A Note on Cost: While I’ve personally read all of the books listed, I borrowed them before I purchased them. My local library has excellent apps like Libby or Hoopla that allow me to listen to the audiobook for free or I can request hardcopies from within our local library system. I encourage you to utilize resources near you and get creative! If you prefer to purchase your own hardcopies to take notes or keep as reference, great! Just know that it isn’t required.
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The mission of Thriving Little Thinkers is to help parents identify low cost but high impact activities that help your child learn to think.
